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Originally Posted by divine1966
Some people lack deep understanding of things but they’ve learned some psycho babble and now they shlep it on to everything and anything even it’s not even remotely relevant. They think it makes them sound intelligent and important but in reality this psycho babble has no deep meaning. And they can’t fool us with it. Let them talk. Ignore.
As situations with men, we can’t really help who we attract and who we might initially like but we sure can help who we get committed to, who we bring home and marry.
I honestly think you’d benefit from raising your standards and expectations of men. It has to be more than them being lovey dovey, it’s not enough, they have to be higher class of men. Relationship with higher standards men might still not work but at least you won’t feel screwed over.
Honestly some men you were with were way beneath you and were in no shape or form relationship or commitment material. You have to aim higher. And then have list of deal breakers and get out as soon as you see anything wrong with them, which is typically just few months. No one can pretend to be great longer than that. Having said that, we all’ve been there and done that. You aren’t alone in this. We all live and learn. You deserve the best and you are on a right track
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Oh yes... many love to slap psychobabble into their comments, when really it's inappropriate and not suitable for the situation at hand. I'm finding many women on these abuse forums doing just that on Facebook. I just roll my eyes, lol.
My mother told me many years ago that I needed to raise my standards. I guess I never knew how high I should really set that bar, but it's pretty high. Not impossible but high. I have very strong morals and ethics, and I treat people with respect and kindness. I expect the same in a partner, at the very least.
But, that being said, I will not be pursuing ANY romantic relationships once I divorce and I will never again.
I have decided to be single for the remainder of my living days.
I am going to make myself comfortable with that. I have two girlfriends who decided the same thing. I will go out with them. And I will make many more girlfriends too.
I will join hiking groups, kayaking and skiing groups. I will live my life to the fullest, without a partner. I will do as I please. I think I can be very happy this way, albeit lonely at times, but I think I can still be very happy. Maybe even the happiest I've been in my entire life.