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Originally Posted by divine1966
Well you have to reasonable. I am not saying you must only date Nobel Prize winners. But your standards have to match some common sense and age brackets. Like what was ok at 20, isn’t ok at 50. People don’t need to be perfect. But at the very least they shouldn’t be addicts and should be self-sufficient and posses good character. Not saying they need to be gorgeous or rich. Just regular people with regular values and healthy life style.
I have a friend who spent her whole life single (despite wanting a partner) because she could never meet the right person. Right person in her mind is thin and over 6ft tall and good looking. No amount of examples of nice people who are shorter or heavier or average looking would change her mind.
You have to feel attraction but it doesn’t need to be such rigid criteria! That’s I say is unrealistic and shallow expectation. Well in her case I think she has these unreasonable expectation as an excuse for not dating because deep inside she doesn’t want a partner. She isn’t a shallow person so why would she have such shallow expectation?
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Yeah.... I hear you.
I will address this in my individual therapy for sure.
It's neither here nor there though since I will refuse to date anyone for a very long time. That's my plan.
And I may decide to never date again. I could just be done.
I've had SO many toxic relationships at this point, I am 50 years old, and I am tired. I need peace of mind. I need happiness. I need my independence. I believe I could be happy being single for the remainder of my life. I may never develop an interest in men again. It's very possible. Two if my close girlfriends chose to be single and they're happy.