I see what you're saying. Only time will tell if he has true remorse. Named this thread that at the beginning because I was soooo angry. I caught him in the act of texting a woman. Of course he was defensive. Part of the problem with us is maybe I didn't call him out on his bull enough. I haven't seen that look on his face since high school! and I took me awhile to figure out what that look was. I hope he has remorse in the future about his actions, regardless of where we end up. All I know at this point, our relationship has changed for good whether we get back together or not. I can't go back to keeping things to myself and not speaking my mind. I also need to start making choices on my own. I have already started that and it has made me feel better. Cant see going backwards at this time. I have some changing to do and so does he. If after that were okay, great. If not, i'll be heartbroken but I'll survive. I need changes too. This seems like its no longer all about him