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I have read you say this several times over the months about different things--"when I have done X, then I will be finished with therapy..." I don't think I have ever said that.

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LOL! You must have captured that line in my post at the same time I had caught it and was revising it. I do seem very fix on the making sure I know when therapy should end!!! What's up with that? I edited the statement because it was just BS. I like my therapeutic relationship and don't want it to end anytime soon. I also know that you are not remotely interested in ending therapy at this time. I'm sorry for trying to impose cut off criteria.

It seems like you and I have/are experiencing some similar situations, yet are seeing them from different perspectives. Do you think this could be related to different attachment issues? Do you think it is a maturity/ therapy experience difference?

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I am just intensely shy and do not like exposing myself to others, I just consider a lot to be "private."

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I think the fact that you were able to break out of this shyness with your present T says a lot. I would like to achieve this to some degree too.

What do you envision as your next personal therapy goal? Beyond achieving your independence. I think you can ways to benefit from a positive therapeutic relationship with your T. You are paying for therapy so, there doesn't have to be a clear cut ending criteria. There is no health-meter that ejects you when you meet some threshold.

With what you are experiencing in your life at the moment, you deserve an hour a week where you just lap up the positive vibes and feel connected with someone. Your kids are likely benefiting from this indirectly too.

I hope this week you have fun exploring your elephant.