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I was once a part of an organization and while cleaning up, a couple people asked if I needed help. I was practically done so I politely said no thanks. I knew them pretty well. Someone overheard that and flipped out on me for not accepting their help.
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I think in this situation, it was about sharing the responsibilities rather than not needing the help. When we work as a team, we need to consider others and include them in the process so they are being used as an equal within the team. So, I agree, it would have been rude to say no thanks, if this couple were looking to be of use within this organization.
When it's more about personal boundaries, yes, "help" isn't always warranted. Sometimes that help is mistaken for someone's "impatience" or a self-serving need to look "good" in the eyes of an audience. I'm sure I could add many reasons to this list.
It's about balance. Knowing when it's appropriate to receive the help (without taking it as a personal hit) and when to set a healthy boundary.