No that's not how it's supposed to work. I don't see why he'd tell you that Another core condition in humanistic therapy is congruence which means what you see of the therapist in the session is pretty much who they are outside of sessions - another words, they're not putting on a show or false act for you. Your T doesn't come across very congruent if he's under the impression that how he feels /says about you once you leave the room is irrelevant to the therapy with you. The idea behind humanistic therapy is to show the client that their care is genuine and real and unconditional positive regard is supposed to be part of that. It's certainly possible to feel it it from a T in a real, genuine, authentic way - I do from mine. I'd be very put off if I heard what your T told you. I think trust your instinct here.