Hey Have Hope,

Those traits may be considered as very alarming and they may strongly suggest that you're dealing with a narc but you can't be the judge. Why?

First of all, sociopaths and psychopaths show very similar behavioral traits. It takes years of theraphy for the professional to tell the difference.

Secondly, with all due respect it's you say... it's your observations/opinions and I assume you have strong (perhaps negative) feelings for this man, especially right now. I am not defending him, just saying you're probably in distress and you may see things a little bit different.

The last but not least, I've been around long enough to know it's extremely difficult to say if someone is a real narc

Consider those traits to be enough to ditch him with no regret though. Honestly, the guy sounds like a definition of a loose cannon.