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Old Oct 29, 2020, 03:09 PM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
Forgive me if I didn’t read all your details. I read that he used your credit card after you told him not to, he did it again. That is a trust issue.

I’m curious why he used your cc. Did he max his out?

I believe in honest communication. I would, and I think a t would suggest, you talk about why he did that and how you are doing financially as a couple (because his debt is yours and vice versa when married)

The price change at Home Depot was low to do. I’d ask him, maybe in t, Why did he do it? Does he habitually? Did he hide that from you previously?

I agree his using your credit card after you said ‘no’ is a form of abuse. It’s disrespect and financial abuse. Maybe he thinks since you are married he has the right to do this, despite what you say? Um....I wouldn’t be able to live with a relationship like that, either. Hugs
What happened is he used my card a second time without asking me and charged another $300 on it. He didn’t tell me either and I found out through an email notification from the credit card company that there was a charge. He told me just recently that he knew it was wrong when he did it. And I said, you knew it was wrong yet you did it anyways??

I don’t trust him about anything now. He’s lied and has stretched or has omitted the truth too many times.

I cannot talk to him anymore. When confronted, he deflects, stonewalls, gaslights and takes NO responsibility. His actions do not match his words.

I’m happily divorcing him as soon as Is possible. He’s untrustworthy, toxic and abusive.
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