I'm sorry about your Dad. I've been in a similar situation with my father. I'm glad I spent the last couple of years caretaking for him though. It gave me a deeper understanding of who and, why he is the way he is. He's 200 miles away and in a nursing home. I can't believe how much I find myself missing him. Hopefully you'll resolve the issue. I'm finally at peace with my father. He really did the best he could. I wish you and him the best during this difficult time.