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Originally Posted by lizardlady
I believe we should always ask before offering help. Also believe it is okay to say "no thank you". Doing something without asking first sends the message the other person is incapable of doing for themself. It's rude.
Doing something without asking first can also harm the other person. I have a friend with physical limitations that cause her to fall. When people see her fall they jump in and try to lift her to her feet. She gets angry about it. People have hurt her trying to "help." She's the one who taught me to always ask first.
As for the person who blew up when the OP declined an offer of help. She was wrong, overreacted and should have minded her own business
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Yep I totally agree. Helping without asking first can send the wrong message or even scare someone. The person I knew who was in a wheelchair hated being pushed without being asked first and hated it when other people assumed she couldn’t move stuff out of the way on her way. I totally understood. And yeah, the person who flipped out on me overreacted and should have minded her own business.