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Old Oct 30, 2020, 06:51 AM
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Originally Posted by Soupe du jour View Post
Hubby and I got back from most of the day appointments in Philadelphia at about 4:30 or 5 pm. He went straight to bed, without wanting dinner, because of his eye injection. Of course I understand that. The injections are doozies, but I have spent most of the last five hours doing more preparations for the stager and photographer coming tomorrow. To heck with my ankle!

The so-called "deep cleaning" cleaning service was far from "deep cleaning". I have been working my butt of doing the "deeper stuff". And there's still lots to do! I haven't touched Hubby's bathroom or office. That's a no-no, but though the cleaners tried to clean there, they are still cluttered...and need another cleaning. I wish I could grab a box and just swipe most of his clutter into it in one swoop. He's going to be difficult.

Many of our closets and cabinets still need partial unloading and reorganization. That's not necessary for tomorrow, but must be done before actual potential buyers come. They do look in them. Plus, my husband's basement and garage (yes, "his" because it's mostly all his stuff, look like hell. Though we need to store moving boxes there, they should still look organized and not a disaster area. The floors there are also filthy. They need at least superficial cleaning.

I can't do anymore tonight! It will make me sick!

There's still so much to do before the stagers' arrival tomorrow at 9:30 am. I imagine myself doing most of it, in addition to putting a quick breakfast one.

Thanks for letting me vent!
You have really worked so very hard Soupe. It is really amazing how you keep going and find the strength to do so even while a mood blip occurred.

H sounds like he is a bit of an emotional hoarder. The items seem to have some sort of value to them that wouldn't be there for others. I've been through that before with a relative right before a big move. The thought of being faced with throwing out so many things he saw value in was very painful for him. However, there came a point where it simply became inevitable and he mentally made peace with it. Once he got there, the process became much easier. My hope is your H will reach that place soon and let go a little. He will feel much better when he does and I know it will be awesome for you.

Is he still working? I know there was discussion of a possible severance event. I just don't think I ever heard how it worked out.

I hope you're able to do what's needed today without being in too much pain. Sending support your way!
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Soupe du jour
Thanks for this!
Soupe du jour