Have Hope, why did you get so mad and annoyed about that alleged accusation?

You say "do not try to diagnose me or try to tell me what disorders I may have. You are not a therapist." - yet you ask us if your husband is a narc...

The last thing I want is to step on your toes but I do remember myself behaving in very similar way (being triggered, though by different things) and once I looked into reasons behind it I learnt a lot about myself. So again, do not explain yourself here, just pay attention to what you do and how you react. It may improve your therapy. Again, speaking from expierence.