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Old Oct 30, 2020, 07:19 AM
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Originally Posted by MisterPaul View Post
Have Hope, why did you get so mad and annoyed about that alleged accusation?

You say "do not try to diagnose me or try to tell me what disorders I may have. You are not a therapist." - yet you ask us if your husband is a narc...

The last thing I want is to step on your toes but I do remember myself behaving in very similar way (being triggered, though by different things) and once I looked into reasons behind it I learnt a lot about myself. So again, do not explain yourself here, just pay attention to what you do and how you react. It may improve your therapy. Again, speaking from expierence.
This thread is about my husband, not about me. I asked specifically whether people thought my husband is a narcissist. Then it was implied that I may be one myself, and I got seriously offended. No offense to you, I know you are diagnosed as a narcissist yourself, but I get triggered when I feel largely misunderstood and misinterpreted. And again, this thread isn't about analysis of myself, and it's not what I asked for at all. I have a right to get annoyed when people get off topic on my own thread. I don't wish to personally be analyzed right now. That IS the job of my therapist.

And right now, I am dealing with narcissistic abuse. I am trying to empower myself to leave this awful situation. I don't need people telling me what my problems are, nor did I ask! What I need personally is strengthening, not people poking holes in my self esteem.
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