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Originally Posted by MisterPaul
Sorry if I come off as insensitive but I am. I am that kind of person. However, you’ve been sharing your thoughts and opinions when I was asking for advices. It helped me. Now I honestly want to help you and as a matter of fact (as you know) this problem is sort of in my “area of expertise”.
I can be the bad guy / immature / a… hole here but it’s not my intention to poke holes in your self esteem. It’s probably your husband’s goal. And that is my point. Narcissistic abuse is usually bombing your self esteem and is distorting your self image and I can see it.
You are not a narc… Christ, you’re nowhere near it. There is no reason for you to get mad at someone who says something so inaccurate, off topic or not, because it’s not you. Something tells me that you’ve been misunderstood and misinterpreted on daily basis by someone close to you (you know who) and this is why you react the way you do (it’s a symptom of abuse). I just want to point that out. I know it's important. I won't go further because I'd probably say something bad again.
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Oh yes, I've been falsely interpreted and accused by my husband dozens of times. When I've confronted him over his bad behaviors, I've been called "too sensitive", a "psycho" a "b-i-t-c-h", and I've been accused of things such as "you have mental problems!" and "no wonder you've never been married!"
He is a mean SOB who has tried to make ME the problem and HIM the saint, and yes, it triggers me immensely at this point to be falsely accused and/or interpreted.
It really seemed in the beginning of our marriage that he was trying to paint me as being seriously mentally unstable and unfit.
I'm like the nicest most caring and compassionate person in the world, and I am in fact, relatively stable (relatively speaking). But, I'm too nice and too accepting, and that's how these a-holes are able to ensnare me to begin with.