I can see how my comments might have been a bit unclear and insensitive, but it seems you've really taken it the wrong way. There was absolutely no accusation of you being a narcissist, on the contrary I said I thought you were less than averagely narcissistic. Someone completely void of narcissism would never even look in a mirror. I don't think it was off topic, and I've apologised twice for hitting a nerve, and tried to clear up the misunderstanding. My point, again, is that it matters less whether your husband has a PD, that you aren't going to get a diagnosis for. What matters is that you have evidence that you are suffering narcissistic abuse, and it is important that you get your strength up to make yourself safe. I don't think anyone's intention is to put pressure on, or make you feel bad. I really only have sympathy for your situation, and concern that you get out of it safely. This focus on diagnosing your husband isn't going to help you do that, unfortunately, and I know that from experience.