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Originally Posted by fern46
You have really worked so very hard Soupe. It is really amazing how you keep going and find the strength to do so even while a mood blip occurred.
H sounds like he is a bit of an emotional hoarder. The items seem to have some sort of value to them that wouldn't be there for others. I've been through that before with a relative right before a big move. The thought of being faced with throwing out so many things he saw value in was very painful for him. However, there came a point where it simply became inevitable and he mentally made peace with it. Once he got there, the process became much easier. My hope is your H will reach that place soon and let go a little. He will feel much better when he does and I know it will be awesome for you.
Is he still working? I know there was discussion of a possible severance event. I just don't think I ever heard how it worked out.
I hope you're able to do what's needed today without being in too much pain. Sending support your way!  |
Thanks, Fern! I'm currently taking it easy after hours of prep work, not only last night, but this morning. My poor husband is quite unwell. I think that's even beyond his post eye injection discomfort (a bubble of sorts has also formed on his eyeball). I believe he's depressed and in some form of mourning.
Hubby is sleeping in our unfinished basement in the dark, where he used to have his dark room. I wanted to check on him, plus was curious where in the heck he was sitting. We have no chairs left there. What I found was that he set up an inflatable mattress we've used for guests, in the past. Oh my! When he finally comes up, the house will look a LOT different. Without his stuff. Yes, he is definitely emotionally attached to his belongings!
I'm hoping the same thing will happen to my husband as you described with your relative. I will say that he has let go of a lot already, so I give him kudos.
I won't need to do much more until the stagers leave. Perhaps put away a couple boxes of stuff they may have taken out of rooms. Also, pre-photography vacuuming upstairs, and a sweep of the downstairs. After that, another break. However, before the house starts being seen by potential buyers, the "hidden places" need some organizing, clearing, as well. That includes our laundry room, my pantry, and a couple closets. Then, as I mentioned, better organization and sweeping of the garage and basement. I'll be sure to have the inflatable mattress deflated so no one thinks we keep a slave down there
What I'm worried about for myself is more how I'll do when we get to Czech Republic after the sale and relocation. Ugh! Extreme numbers of boxes to deal with, and furniture. Plus, suddenly major difficulty with a language and not knowing the area well. Gone will also be some of the little pleasures and ease I had in the US. For example, knowing people around town, including some who always (pre-covid) gave me hugs and kisses. I will get to know new people though, but I know people realize the difficulty in middle-age. Lots of other things, too. Some road rules are different, etc.