I'm really struggling with this right now. My partner told me this, two days ago, "You really have no idea that you are a narcissist do you? I'm so sorry.." Once I read that, I was not at all surprised by his accusation. The projections and blaming is pretty common around here so it was only a matter of time.

Years back, when discussing my mother (which I now regret), he asked me if I thought he was narcissistic. It surprised me because, although I was aware of our challenges, I did not at all suspect he had a personality disorder. Why would he ask me?

Covert abuse isnt from someone simply being an insensitive and selfish jerk. It's pathological, no? For someone who exhibits these behaviours to this degree, according to the article, is indicative they have a personality disorder?