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Whenever I disagree with her living with us, he says I don’t appreciate my family and he has a good healthy relationship with his parents unlike me (he uses my poor relationship with my parents as a reminder I am not “appreciative” of my family). He also brings up how his past serious relationships were ok with the idea of his mom living with them.
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Is it typical for him to attack you personally rather than addressing/negotiating the issue at hand?
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On top of that, he wants to bring his mom on future vacations with me and even mentioned his ex invited her on their past trip together since they got along so well.
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It seems that he brings up exes a lot.
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He’s back home due to COVID, living rent free, and has her cooking for him. To be fair, he does support her in every other way. He spends most evenings with her. He told me he hates city dwelling and is the happiest he’s been for a long time. When I tried to test him and ask who he’d take to an isolated island, he said he’d take his mom and dog.
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Personally? I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where someone seems to strongly prefer their mother to me.
I wouldn't want to be in a three-way relationship.
If he is "the happiest he's been in a long time", maybe the life for him is to support his mother and not have any other relationships.
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He also stated he’s willing to compromise on his mom living with us but he’s also really stubborn. In fact, he’s said his past relationships failed because he refused to compromise on his standards and he found flaws with each women, claiming they weren’t appreciative and had “complexes”.
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So in reality he might not be willing to compromise after all.
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I’m really concerned about the future as I’m worried he’ll force me into a living arrangement I don’t want, especially as his mom ages and becomes more dependent. I think he’s conceited and narcissistic as he demands I should be in “awe” of him.
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He actually demands that you should be in awe of him?
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I’m worried I won’t have space in his life as a wife
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From what you have told us, it sounds to me like your worries are quite reasonable.
It might be admirable that he is devoted to his mother. Your gut, though, on it seems to be negative as to your relationship with him. My advice is to go with your gut.