There you go reading my mind again!!! i have tried and will continue to try to keep the kids out of it as much as possible. I'm always thinking about what you said about my youngest. He is his siblings biggest ally and was able to use the new name and pronouns the fastest! I have always worried about what would happen in his friend group. I'm always on the lookout for any kind of problems. I feel my oldest and his issues are a symptom of a bigger problem with husband and marriage, not a problem in itself. Its our lack of communication. My kids seem to be doing okay, and they are both out right now behaving like teenagers instead of worrying about me so i'm thrilled!!!

I also realize there will be many talks in our future. The first one just seems like the biggest and the hardest ie. are we going to work on this or not.

Once again, thank you soooo much for your advice and wisdom!