In essance he is trying to get you to be one of his flying monkeys. There to SERVE HIM. This is a term used that comes from the Wizard of Oz where the wicked witch had her flying monkeys only there to obey and serve HER needs.

In return the monkeys get a place to live and food to eat basically. It's transactional which is different than having the right to be free to be your own person.

Narcissists tend to be very transactual. They are the center, the god, the one that is GIFTED and deserves to tell everyone else what to do to service THEIR needs. Bow down to me as I am the all powerful. Oh yes, I am the one who controls all drama, you are just to honor and obey.

The Narcissist functions on "give them bread and circuses so WE can do as we please".