Thanks for the replies. I suppose I’m questioning why he lives with his mom at age 42, when he has the means to move out, and have her cook for him, clean up, etc. Yes, he does contribute to the household in other ways and provides for his mom. But wanting daily contact with her, taking her to live with him on a deserted island for lifetime, him canceling dates to help her with “something”, I don’t know but it screams enmeshment. I’m still trying to figure it out, I understand we all love our families (if it’s an otherwise normal healthy upbringing) but I feel he’s not psychologically oriented for a relationship, much less marriage. Am I just ruminating too much on this, I feel like I’m stuck with my thoughts on this and I talked with a few people in my close circle to get an outside perspective