You have a right to your own health and sanity. But I understand the stuck part and the guilt. So here is the deal: You get to make some of the calls when it comes to his health. Guys who are egg-headed when it comes to taking care of themselves need a strong hand. My father was 18yrs older than my mom. Yes, he lied about his age. Still, she put up with him for the sake of true love. Go figure. LOL.

He also had diabetes Type 2 and other health issues. But my mother put her foot down. She told him she would get a divorce if he refused to follow her instructions when it came to keeping him alive. It was his choice.


Sure, he checked himself out of CCU once after his carotid artery surgery because he told the nurses they kept making too much noise and he could not sleep. He needed his sleep so his body would heal and his blood pressure would stabilize. They told him (and his loud mouth) to go ahead and leave. So he did. The old rooster!~

But my mom remained firm with him. She made sure he took his meds (even though he would try to hide them or not swallow them). She made sure he kept his aptmts at the VA. And she kept him fed. He was thin and had anorexia so we had to convince him to eat in the last 10 yrs. But she would do all this under the threat of her walking out and finding another man. That was his biggest fear. Us kids knew she would never do that. And he did too. But that was her Ace and she knew how to play it when she had to do so.

He passed this year in August. He was 92.