Does anyone else use a cover story with people they meet or simple acquaintances? I've learned the hard way not to tell people I have bp until I trust them, and even then I've been burned.

I'm 54 and was in the technology business for about 25 years. I started a company and was somewhat successful. Now I paint abstract paintings. I let the world think that I was fortunate enough to retire early and that I can now do what I want to do in life.

In reality, I lost my last job, one of a string of many, 12 years ago. Two years later I declared bankruptcy. I was awarded disability benefits because it was clear that I was unable to work, manage my finances, or successfully complete day-to-day affairs. I suffered from crippling anxiety and the usual mood swings, energy swings, and I drank way too much.

I am now stable enough to be able to take care of myself and paint, which I love. I am fortunate enough to get financial support from my family when needed.


So, to the outside world it seems that I live a charmed life, and I let people think that until I think I can trust them. But, I hate having to do it.


Does anyone else have a similar way of dealing with their public identity?