I honestly dont think hes ahs thought any of this all the way through. He is a walking talking advertisement for midlife crisis! I think its finally hitting him how bad he's messed up, and I think my reaction to all of this is not what he thought he'd get. Im not begging or pleading for him to come home . I keep adding more boundaries and he is not used to me asserting myself. He may be seeing his future slipping through his fingers. It hurts but I'm trying to move on one way or another.