Julie, I have been thinking about this situation and I question how your husband could even think after just telling you the extent of this affair that it was ok to even ask you if you wanted him to move back home. And he said he doesn't need therapy but is ok if you need it? He doesn't have any remorse for what he did?

Did he say anything in your conversations that expressed remorse? From what you have shared it doesn't sound like he has, did I miss something?

Does he even understand love? How his actions can hurt others?