Why don’t you be the one to pull the trigger? An apology isn’t much. Actions speak louder than words. If he had any decency he would have ended it with you instead of sneaking around behind your back for 8 months. This means that for 8 months he’s lied about where he’s been and about what he’s been doing. He snuck around, talking to her and seeing her on the sly, while deceiving you. Can you really ever trust this man again? Would you be able to get past a long term affair and deceit?