ok julie, thanks for explaining more. I totally get how you don't want to hear i am sorry too. You are still basically in shock and angry and hurt right now. And because you outed him with this, that's even worse because the question is "how long would he have continued this behind your back ?".

This escapade of his was all about his own ego.

People can make some really bad decisions based on their ego. They can jump into something without thinking about the consequences. Even when all the red flags are right in front of them they act on impulse, in the moment instead of thinking down the road what they will face. Then they want special attention when they chose something they should not have and they often prefer to run off and do it too because their ego is driving them more than reason.

Hmm, making desicions without thinking about your partner? Why? Because his own ego was more important.