I think because of my BPD, trying to make her happy is natural. I think it's called an enabler. I don't think I am strong enough to not give into her. I have tried to cut our time down. I said I wanted to get off every night at 11 instead of 12. But that only happens when she doesn't say I have to keep talking. So, we start talking between 11 and 12 in the morning. She is quite commanding. I am afraid of the confrontation of leaving, but also afraid of the nice way she will ask me what is wrong if I am just not around. That is why I thought a cut off letter was best.