I am getting really frustrated with these Facebook groups. Two people tried to tell me (DICTATE rather) that I "grey rock" my husband whenever he is controlling, abusive or disrespectful. NO -- in order to preserve my self respect and self worth, I need to stand. up to him each time, call him out on his behavior and push back with him. I refuse to go grey rock and allow him to abuse me. That will send my self esteem down a downward spiral. I. had to tell these women THREE times "let me handle this the way in which I need to handle it". GEEZ!