I am also going crazy over how my husband carries a completely false facade in front of ALL his friends, who all think he's just "so awesome" and "such a great guy". It irks me to no end that abusers can hold high esteem in the community and with their own group of friends, yet abuse horrifically behind closed doors where no one witnesses it except for the victim.

It makes me ILL that my husband's friends all think he's the most incredible person. Absolutely ILL. They just love and adore him. He has managed to wrap them all around his finger with deceit and manipulation. If they only knew the truth!!!!!!

And that's one of the most painful parts of abuse: is that it is hidden, it is unknown, and the victim is all alone in their experience.