Abusers and people who don't respect your boundaries get very angry when you set a boundary. I am very proud of you!Abuse is confusing, because it is literally brainwashing. I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse and understand how much courage it takes to leave. You are NOT stupid. You have done the best you can in your situation. Put the blame and shame where it belongs.....on the abuser, NOT on yourself. Abusers are emotional vampires, they want to continually get you to explain yourself. You can protect yourself, and stop responding. If you feel you must respond to something.....a good thing to say is: Oh, I see that's how you feel. Leave it at that, and don't continue the conversation. He doesn't care what you think or feel. I am so sorry about your dog. xo