Does anyone have experience with this type of relationship? I'm so overwhelmed by these labels but they're also making a lot of sense to me about my relationship issues with my partner.

What's the difference between Borderline personality disorder and enmeshment traits?

I like the advice from this link below and feel I've already been working on these, unknowingly. I just need to apply them in a more positive way towards my partner who I feel quite negatively about these days. I also think the symptoms are quite spot on.

Tips on Setting Boundaries in Enmeshed Relationships

I'm just looking for ways to improve my situation while we're still together.