Checking in to see how you are doing (((Julie))). I know you share here to not feel alone and to gain control over all the feelings you are experiencing. I worry that while considering possible std and hearing things about other people and bad things will only feed into the very thing you are working on getting a handle on. Feeding fears when someone is already struggling doesn't do anything to help the person gain control over. So I want to make sure you are maintaining control as you have been making progress with that. Given what you have shared, chances are it's very low that your husband was exposed given that over 8 months most of his interaction was through texts and conversations and not much in person contact given how this woman is 9 hours away.

I think you did real well with that talk when you remained calm. Listening, as hard as that can be is important because it gives you facts instead of running away with all your fears and feelings which you have a lot of right now. It's important to keep in mind "feelings" are not facts and it's easy to get caught up in feelings instead of finding out the facts.