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Old Nov 04, 2020, 02:39 PM
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Originally Posted by KBMK View Post
I know the feeling of having to "get everything right." It helped me a bit doing a touch typing course, and just getting used to little mistakes. I haven't been comfortable playing games, seems like a waste of time, but doing anything playful or creative can help, too. It's a hard thing, and takes time, and if you can be patient and kind with yourself it'll only make it less painful! Haha, easier said than done!
For me, I am working on being OK with "good enough" and "doing my best", whatever that entails. If I am stressed, yet still give 100% effort, I've done my best. Nothing has to be perfect... and I am trying to instill this in myself.

Where I really need help in therapy is to not beat myself up over marrying yet another abusive man. It's so hard when I've been with eight abusive men in total and when I've read umpteen articles on abuse, I've educated myself on abuse tactics, AND i've read books on abuse. Yet, they still find me, and yet, I've still gotten hooked and reeled in by them.

I am really looking forward to getting to the bottom of this in therapy. I am ready for healing, and I am ready to embrace health.
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