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Originally Posted by lilacsnow
I posted under the spirituality section but realised afterwards that I really need help establishing new relationships.
Basically I got love bombed into a belief about fifteen or so years ago when I was very unwell mentally. I realise people with that belief thought I'd be miraculously healed.
Anyway, moving on, I have very slowly been getting better over the past couple of years since I woke up to what had been traumatizing me.
I have no friends outside of this belief system. And if I talk to my current friends I'm met with their disapproval, disappointment and attempts to persuade me back.
Has anyone got experience of making new friends when they're older, single and recovering from trauma related issues?
I'm not sure that moving to be near family is an option.
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I'm not sure what you mean by ''older''... I guess anyone over 29?
Naturally, due to ''the situation'' ...
.... it is not as easy as it had been to meet new people irl.
Moving on from that ''topic''...
Maybe hanging out here on pc could be a start in establishing new relationships. (?) Or some other special interest groups/forums online (?)
I also had been somewhat love bombed some years ago so I can relate a bit to that aspect. When I had been unable to play the games (on fb) I was rapidly ''defriended'' by the ''leader'' of the group. I did not find that cool at all.
She had sent me a Christmas present the previous year
Also she just did not understand my reluctance to post my addresss
Sorry about the ''rant''... She was a nice person I think (somewhat Narcissistic though)
If these friends are still being disappointed, disapproving etc, maybe they are not healthy for you now.
Hugs and respect
