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Originally Posted by seesaw
Fuzzybear, I know exactly what you mean. And then they make you feel like you are such a burden to them. Ug.
I'm sorry you are struggling with this person. I don't know what the whole story is, I know you like to be enigmatic, but my advice is to have as little contact as possible. You know their behavior, so expect it and just ignore them. I know that doesn't settle with the side of us that wants justice, but our goal is to live well and be happy - revenge or justice doesn't always go hand in hand with our own recovery from their abuse and having a great life.
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Thanks seesaw, this is helpful. They also like to try to ''control'' the conversation and shut me down if I do not talk about one of the few ''allowed'' topics. Grrrrr. I only recently remembered a mean thing they said (that I had forgotten). I told Papa bear (my husband) about this mean thing they had said. This particular person is not generally abusive, but this thing they said... ugh. I don't want to post it here. I might PM it to someone to bounce it off someone (not tonight though, I need to nap
Maybe after a nights sleep it won't bother me as much.
These rigid, controlling, passive aggressive people do make us feel that we are such a burden to them grrrr. I don't have much contact with them any more, which is a good thing I guess (except for the above mentioned person who is generally kinder
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