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Old Nov 05, 2020, 09:16 AM
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Originally Posted by BarefootBeach View Post
Best of luck with you appointment. A knowledgeable and experienced therapist is critical in this area. IMO, unless people have experienced the insidious affects of narcissistic abuse, the abused can sound like dramatic, exaggerating, "angry" people, and be dismissed by some therapist. That happened to me, yet I stayed with the therapist and was blamed and told repeatedly that I was playing the "victim"....I was a victim, not playing one! He told me "It couldn't have been that bad!" I knew I should have left, but was hooked and very unknowing about a lot. I wanted help to recover and process this pain and abuse; so I uncovered every stone I could, on my own and found hope and knowledge, which lead to power. I hope today goes well!
That's a horrible therapist right there for you - my word - telling you that you were playing victim?!?! That's victim blaming! How awful!!!! That can do soo much damage to someone who HAS been a victim of abuse!!!



And thanks so much - I just had probably the best therapy session I've ever had. This guy is well trained... very well trained. I can tell he is going to truly be able to help me. I am SO thankful because I've never had an effective therapist - not one - and I've been in and out of therapy my whole life.
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