Your story saddens me so much. Labels are often made based on a first impression and/or someone else's incompetent report, yet they tend to follow one around. I once had a CA highway patrol, who claimed to be an alcoholic/drug abuse specialist, claim that a topical skin rash ON MY SHOULDER, was track marks!
Anyway, I think you've done an amazing job of keeping things together as best you could under your circumstances. I sure hope you're seeing a T to try to work out some of this.
Hang in.