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Originally Posted by BethRags
I feel so sad when I read of or hear about a step-parent who has "marked" a stepchild as oppositional. I'm not trying to dismiss your concerns, because they might be very valid. It's just something I've read so many times on this forum and others. I can only imagine how terribly frightened it is to a child when their parents split up and that child has to adjust, like it or not. How confusing for a little person who has been in this confusing world for only 10 years.
I strongly urge you to go for family therapy before your stepson gets any older and he starts being an "oppositional" teen. Also, I'll bet therapy would be helpful for him.
Best of luck to you.
Respectfully, Beth.
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BethRags, I will be honest. I hear a concerned tone in your response, and you use the word respectful, but I'm not sure why you are assuming that I have "marked" him oppositional.
Also, you assume he had a dad to be separated from.
All that aside, I understand what you are trying to do is to get me to see things from his perspective. If the majority opinion is that he is just "scared and confused" and I should take it easy on him and be more understanding and patient and gentle then so be it. I'm simply trying to understand his condition so I can better facilitate his growth.