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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
I feel two ways about this...on one hand she wants the divorce- did she say why? To me that would matter because if shes decided she's just sick of you then she should also be sick of your money. You said there was no abuse or cheating so what are her reasons? On the other hand if you and she mututally agreed way way long ago that you wanted a housewife, and she agreed to be one, ending or forgoing her career than I'd say she deserves SOMETHING other than nothing but not necessarily a "life she is accustomed to" because that life is the one she is leaving
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Sarah, the reasons for her wanting the divorce are mainly revolving around her feeling that we had lost connection and were living separate lives in many ways. There is some truth in her feelings and we were working on trying to figure out how to reconnect. I did not see it as catastrophically as she did and maybe did not clearly understand how to bridge our gaps. She felt that I was not able to change enough to ever really be connected in the manner she needed and thus gave up.
We did agree that she would be a stay at home mom and I would be the bread winner. We both took our roles very seriously and I think we got lost in those worlds over time. Our twins are now 18 and finishing high-school this year. I have agreed to keep paying for everything (house, bills, etc...) until they graduate next summer, then sell the house and transition to a spousal support mode only.
I will be talking with lawyer this week to see how she thinks we should proceed regarding the amount and duration of the support.