angelgirl, again, i understand what you're feeling as you've exprpressed in this post...if you're like me no one can tell you that what happened was not your fault, because it "feels" like it is.

you have to go by the facts right now. you were a young child not capable of know the magnatude of the decision made. you did NOT ask to be hurt, whether you were disobeying by going with him or not. also, you're feeling guilt about the other child. that's so hard and sad and unfortunate. however, you did the only thing you knew to do...you told mom and dad. it was up to them to report and press charges. i didn't even tell. you did really good there.

again, you did nothing to deserve what happened to you just like that other little girl didn't deserve it. also, you told who you could. it was their responsibility to take it from there, not yours.

i can only say i know your pain, confusion and anger with this. i hope someday that you can let go of the responsibility you've assumed. it's not yours to own...just like it isn't mine to own. i'm saying this to self as much as i am to you.

thank you for this post. it was en eye opener for me...more than you'll ever know.