Hi all this is my first post on the board.

I have a very esteemed, high paid therapist trained at Harvard and Austin Riggs. He was referred by the NY Presbyterian Center for BPD. I honestly don't think he's really doing anything.

His only participation is a few offhanded observations that feel apropos of nothing. He says I'm one of the most therapy-resistant people he's seen since Austin Riggs and I really should be in a center like that but I could never afford it.

I'm paying him for a month what he normally gets for an hour of treatment, and his book is full, so he's not getting rich off me. I still feel like he's mailing it in, but he is VERY confident in his credentials and I don't know if I'm being "resistant" or we aren't a good match.

I like the guy and all....we can talk boating and Bowie for hours, but when it comes time for therapy talk I feel like I am just forcing to talk about something and he is largely disengaged.

Maybe he is playing a long game and this is all part of it. I am told it takes 2-3 years of this to get better. I don't trust my own judgment when it comes to this I've torn through most of my therapists and psychopharm people.

HOw do you all evaluate your therapist?

Thanks