It’s definitely unhealthy. I always knew it was strange since I first remember experiencing it from as young as I can remember. I just had to tow the line and go along with it. Sometimes, I’ve even apologized when it was the other person who hurt me and refused to apologize, didn’t care, did abandon family.

We talk about setting boundaries, but that only works when the other person wants something you offer and you have some value. When they can take or leave you, if you don’t like the bad treatment, you can be erased from their lives (I’ve had this with family!)

I never did this treatment to anyone, and always tried to clear up an issue and make peace.

Do you think it’s an element of abuse? I’m talking about a close person who some issue with you, it blows up, but then they act like it never happened. I’ve even had it denied that it ever happened.