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I disagree with many here. I do not think the OP is obligated to mend the relationship, tolerate the relationship or even forgive him at this point. Sure the op may not tell their parents which is very considerate aside from the fact that they might not care or worse intervene and take sides. The brother is selfish with no concern for his mother or else he would call once and awhile. Instead he waits until he is called only to reject his sibling and manipulate himself out of helping. Just because they are related doesnt matter. The op felt these things and is expected to play those feelings down and somehow understand the brother better? learning to understand is a two way street. Healing a relationship takes two. Of course the OP should get to a point of acceptance but confusing acceptance with forgiveness is a common thing. No one has to forgive but you have to accept the circumstances. I support the op's plan of action.
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