There is no right or wrong way to do things. We all make a choice. But every choice has a consequence. We have to be realistic about it. Going through life without plan B and expecting things to stay the same is naive.

Too many women find themselves in advanced age having nothing to live on because they have no savings, no pension, no retirement plans, no options to support themselves because alimony or life insurance ran out and they didn’t plan for it. Or even if they stay married, they find themselves in a bad financial situation because they didn’t have plan B and weren’t prepared to face consequence of their choice and living on one income might stop being realistic.

And they might not realize that living on social security alone in old age is not doable. Until it’s too late.

I don’t encourage people to live in a la la land and then find themselves in a pickle. I encourage women to have plan B and be prepared to deal with things and life changes.

Judge will award her alimony so she could get on her feet. I’d encourage her to use alimony for getting herself into a better place. Perhaps go to school or what not. Alimony will not go on forever. So offering her infinite support you will encourage her to be dependent. If she gets divorced, she simply can not afford to be dependent. Otherwise she’ll eat cat food in old age. She deserves support and I commend you for thinking about it. And she likely will get awarded support and then she’ll have to start planning for life changes. Life can’t stay the same