It seems to me that your husband wants to change you, but it's wrong. No one can demand from their partner that he should change his character, his desires, his vision of life. Didn't he see what you were like when he started a relationship with you?
It seems to me that he needs a mother, not a wife.
And at the expense of cooking, it's all nonsense. Is it so important in life? It seems to me that it is reasonable that someone who has the opportunity to cook cooks it. And if he also does not want to cook, then order food delivery.
I think he split hairs.