@BethRags, I see what you are saying in your list and I agree. However what I focused on was the young niece who clearly is still ignorant and at an impressionable age. The OP has not even returned to her thread, so my question was not even answered as I wanted to focus on the niece and how she is most likely impressionable and pretty young yet. My mindset pretty much focused on a young teen seeing bad behavior and being imprinted the wrong way and trying to have a conversation that can educate in a way that age can understand dispite what their own parents or other adults say and behave like.