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Originally Posted by lizardlady
Guy, may I suggest a different approach? Instead of telling him to do something which sets the stage for him to refuse how about putting it to him as a choice? It sounds like he's had some significant changes in his short life. By offering him choices you gived him a sense of control in his life.
Let me see if I can come up with an example. Let's say he needs to brush his teeth. You can say something like "Your teeth need to be brushed. You can chose to do it now or you can chose to do it in ten minutes." You've made it clear what needs to be done, but given him some control. If he doesn't go brush his teeth right away say something like "I see you've chosen to brush your teeth in ten minutes." The whole point is to avoid turning it into a battle of wills.
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I always gave my kids a heads up about having to do something instead of telling them to do it NOW. This approach worked well for us.