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He says that it's fine - I can e-mail/call as much as I need to.

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I think this is the key. You are contacting him a lot and he is still saying, 'Do it as much as you need to' at this point. This was a really hard concept for me to get as well. My T has repeatedly told me that it is OK with her that I email or write her between sessions. She doesn't seem to encourage it, but she genuinely does not seem bothered by it. I guess for me, it comes down to accepting or trusting that she actually means what she says --"It is OK with her!". Also, for me I think it is about trusting the relationship enough to know that if it wasn't OK or wasn't in my best interest to write, then she would speak up and tell me so.

As for the going too fast comment, I disagree! I don't think you are necessarily going too fast. My H went to 1 therapy session with my T. Disclosed all kinds of crap, cried, basically laid it all out, and never went back. He wanted it over and done with as fast as possible. I think he needs to go several more times, but hey... that one session did help him quite a bit. I on the other hand have been going for almost a year, and am having trouble disclosing simple crap. Which is better? Who knows.

I think how fast you are going or slow you are going is totally a dynamic of the individual therapeutic relationship between you and your T. Maybe this his how your T does therapy. Instead of dragging things out little by little, he like to meet more frequently, let you lean a lot on him while your world gets demolished, get all the bad stuff out on the table, and then work backwards to help you clean up the mess. Hopefully the end result will be that you are aware of your issues and have learned to cope with them independently.

Only you know if this approach is too intense for you or not. If you think it is too much at the moment, you can use all communication skills you have already established to tell him.

earthmama if contacting your T seems to help you at the moment and he is telling you it is OK, then do it.