East17, how long have You been working with Your current therapist ? I know You don't feel able to ask her, but if it is established, long relationship nothing else will help to resolve Your doubts better. We can only guess. With competent therapist such a discussion usually makes trust and healthy therapeutic relationship stronger. You do not have to share Your interpretation. Tell her what You appreciate her for, that she sometimes says (quote her words) and that You know that therapists are usually not becoming friends with their clients. Then ask her to tell You more about it and let You understand better what it means. At least it would be my way of approaching such a discussion. It is not a matter of having easy discussions It is having discussion which are worth having.